Oh so pretty, but has nothing but looks to offer the world.

I am linked to quite a few social networking sites. I can not help but be distracted by those people who continually post about nonsense. OK, who am I to judge on what is nonsense? I am too, guilty of posting lots on nonsense on the internet. This, right here,  may even be some sort of nonsense to you right now, but I know that 100% of my posts are not nonsense like the people I am talking about.

I am talking about those who live in their own little box, where the only thing happening is themselves. Ok, I get it, some may argue that this is a form of high confidence. I argue that it is plain ludicrous. Those people appear to have no clue as to what is going on with the rest of the world. 

Who are they ?  Those are the people that post things like "always on the grind" , "I look hotter than these lame bitches out here" "Follow me, help get 1,000 followers," and retweet every act of recognition they receive not for what they do, but for how they look. Never once do I see them mention something that is going on in the world or supporting someone else's cause.

I have also been guilty of following these people. It was all entertainment. Then it became a waste of my important time. What was I gaining from reading their timeline? I couldn't help but wonder, what else they do besides talk and  post photos of themselves all day, everyday? Do they ever read a book or a newspaper? Do they ever think of volunteering for a cause?Someone who sits and boasts about themselves all day does not get too much respect from me. 

The Pickle Juice Man.

I watched Nicki Minaj's My Time Now the other night on MTV. I am convinced that the girl is schizophrenic because of her mannerisms. I also think she is a staggering individual because of how far she has gone in  a short amount of time. Minaj has that boss mentality of making things happen with no excuses, she does not accept "pickle juice". 

"The Pickle Juice Man" terminology stems from the above clip taken from My Time Now. This part of the documentary left a stimulating impression on me.  How many of us have accepted "the pickle juice"? I know I have at one time or another and it was not the best thing for me at that time. Had I not accepted "the pickle juice" I would be in life than what I am now. Everything is a learning lesson though,  therefore I am not mad at all. 

I made the decision of applying the same concept to my love life. I want the best for me, and if I keep on allowing low quality men in my life, the result will be low quality relationships. Ladies, stay away from "The Pickle Juice Man". The man with no ambition to have a high quality life. 

What Not To Do In a Relationship.

I am obviously single. That label made me feel like an outcast within my circle of friends once upon a time. Every event always turned into a couple's thing. I became uncomfortable to the point that I did not want to attend anymore of these events. There seemed to always be game of The Farmer in the Dell going on and I was always the cheese standing alone towards the end. Remember that song? 

The farmer in the dell

The farmer in the dell

Hi-ho, the derry-o

The farmer in the dell

The farmer takes a wife

The farmer takes a wife

Hi-ho, the derry-o

The farmer takes a wife

The wife takes a child (2x)

Hi-ho, the derry-o

The wife takes a child

The child takes a nurse (2x) . . .

The nurse takes a cow (2x) . . .

The cow takes a dog (2x) . . .

The dog takes a cat (2x) . . .

The cat takes a rat (2x) . . .

The rat takes the cheese (2x) . . .

The cheese stands alone

The cheese stands alone

Hi-Ho, the derry-o

The cheese stands alone

Such a sad song when you are always the cheese! I was resentful about the situation. Incase you did not know, feeling bitter about something , actually makes you feel worse about yourself. I removed myself from that environment completely and emerged in the party life a little more. There were no more Farmer in the Dell feelings. The new feeling was the one every girl gets when singing the Kentucky song. 

We're going to Kentucky We're going to the fair To see the senorita With flowers in her hair. Shake it shake it shake it, Shake it like you care, Shake it like a milkshake, And shake it everywhere. Shake it to the bottom, Shake it to the top. Now turn around and turn around Until you make a stop. S-T-O-P spells stop.

My outings are once again filled with silliness, laughter, and crying. (I will forever be grateful for these ladies because they brought me back to life. ) Regardless of some of them being in a relationship, when we're out,  it's always a blast. Not once have I felt like an outcast. We don't go  running around like wild single woman picking up men. In our book we dance the night away and enjoy fun random nights and trips. No one is going home early, flaking , or on their phones all night. Everyone should be able to participate in a life like this , in addition to everything else they have going on.  

Some people go into relationships and immediately cut the rest of the world off. Does that seem like the normal thing to do for you? It may seem normal, because the not so normal thing in our society seems to be having a life outside your relationship. It is as if a lot people forget that they were born alone and that they had a life before the relationship. To them, parties are for the singles. They only do gatherings with other couples now. He goes where ever she goes , vice versa and it suddenly becomes "we" and "my other half". When were you ever one half? I don't see people walking around with half a body.  If I am blind let me know.  It's not a coincidence that my favorite couples do not live up each other's asses 24/7. I find that to be a beautiful thing. I don't want that co-dependency on another human being. The fact that  society makes it normal behavior to become co-dependent on our significant others, makes it harder to find another person that is not OK with it. I have faced the fact that it might take me a bit longer to meet someone who shares similar views on this matter. Until then, I am OK with being single. If it means being able to have a life outside of my relationship when I do have one, then hey! WHY NOT?

Why I am keeping it real and why you should accept it.

There are many occasions when I don't believe what is going on right in front of my face. My thoughts run wild.  I muse on the cause of someone behaving a certain way and the awareness of their own behavior. Very often , I come to the conclusion that the person does not  know what he/she is doing. In a perfect world, I can tap the person on the shoulder brief him/her on his/her behavior. In the world we currently live in there is a possibility that an act of violence will be carried out towards me. 

I always think of things that can be changed in order to make the world a better place. If people were to be more aware of their actions, the world would be a better place. That is why I am here. I want to make people more aware of the obvious, so that they will become more vigilant of their actions. Not just any actions. I am talking about negative actions. 

I am not here to judge anyone, I simply want to help direct people towards the positive way of living though my Erratic Harangues.  :o) Happy Reading.